Like most people, I have multiple circles of friends: friends from my hometown, friend groups from college, friends from work, friends from the city, etc. My friendships are one of the most important parts of my life, and I cherish each relationship and circle of friends dearly. Lately, I have been particularly thankful for friendships that started blooming once I moved to New York City over a year and a half ago. To my other friends, I refer to this group as “my blogger friends” or “my Instagram friends,” but on a deeper level, I think of these friendships as my creative circle.
I sincerely believe in the importance of having a wide variety of friends – friends from different places, different backgrounds, with different jobs, passions, and beliefs. But today, I want to spend some time discussing the value of having friends who share you passion. For you this may be music, politics, sports, travel, or a number of other things. Currently, my passion space is the creative community of content creators in New York City (i.e. the blogging/Instagram world of NYC). I have been so fortunate to meet so many of New York’s photographers, bloggers, designers, and other content creators at events, through mutual friends, and through Instagram during my time here. It’s crazy to think that the few girls I happened to talk to at my first Fashion Week event three seasons ago are now my close girlfriends and that girls I followed and communicated with on Instagram for years are now my real-life friends.
This is not to say that this creative community is all sunshine and rainbows. It also can be cutthroat, fake, and full of vanity, greed, and selfishness. It’s been so crucial for me to separate myself as much as possible from those aspects of this community and focus on the people, events, and collaborations that make me feel happy, fulfilled, and that spark inspiration.
Lately, I’ve been reflecting on the friendships I’ve made and grown in this creative community and have realized the gravity of their importance in my life. Wherever your area of passion lies, I encourage you to seek friendships within that space for these reasons…
They Get You
When you’re together, you can speak an entirely different language. My boyfriend recently joined my reunion (about five months in the making!) with two of my best blogger pals, Hilary and Audra. While he isn’t a complete stranger to the world of Instagram and blogging (I talk about it a lot, hehe), I realized half-way through the dinner that he probably felt a bit lost as our conversation speed on using social handles instead of names and discussing followers, pods, engagement, collaborations, and more. I realized in this moment that one, he is a total keeper 😉 and two, how great it felt to be able to share the highs and lows, joys and frustrations, and everything else that comes with being a blogger/Instagrammer with people who knew exactly what I was going through. Not only is this an opportunity to vent and get out those held in emotions, but it’s also a time to share advice and guidance. It’s almost therapeutic. These friends can be there for you and provide support and advice in such unique ways.
They Inspire You
Working on my blog and Instagram is my passion and creative outlet, but with a demanding full-time job, it’s not always easy to find the time and energy necessary to answer emails, work on collaborations, and create content. Whenever I’m feeling tired or unmotivated, I look to my creative friends for inspiration. Whether this is just a visit to their blogs or Instagram feeds, a text conversation, or a coffee date, spending time with my friends either virtually or in real-life is incredibly motivating. I’ve been so blessed to befriend the most hard-working, go-getting, butt-kicking women out there and am never short of inspiration after time spent with them. There are no feelings of jealousy or inferiority when I see and hear about the amazing things my friends are doing. Instead, I feel proud and excited and personally, encouraged to continue on my own creative pursuits.
If you’re reading this and are part of this creative circle, thank you. You inspire me more than you know and your friendship fills such an important space in my heart. And to everyone reading this, I encourage you to seek friendships in your area of passion to foster understanding, challenges, and motivation that can only be achieved by those going through a similar journey.
Photos by: Lauren Listor & David Western