We’ve all been there…”My life is hard because X, Y, Z.” “If I only had X like he/she did.” “Why do I have to deal with this?!”
Whether these comments are thought internally, uttered to significant others, friends, and roommates, or posted on social media, they’re one in the same: pity parties. I know realistically that we can’t possibly be happy all of the time. There are going to be times when life gets us down, when it hands us things that cause incredible suffering. But these routine pity parties that we throw for ourselves are the issue. Lately, I have been the hosting way too many Tatum pity parties and a couple of weeks ago, I decided it was time to officially retire the event.
Because when I think about it, it is downright silly and stupid for me to feel bad for myself. I have an abundance of resources, far more than I need, and so many blessings in every aspect of my life. So now when my inner self starts writing out those pity party invites, I’m stealing the pen and putting that energy toward thinking about all I have to be thankful for, instead of the things I want or worry about.
Today, I’m sharing five things that I am super thankful for at the moment. Next time you start down the path of self-pity, I challenge you to do the same. Just take a moment and list five things you’re thankful for. A change in mentality from yearning to appreciating makes all the difference.
1. My dream job
About a month ago, I started my dream job. It’s crazy and insane and intense, but it’s also fun, exciting, challenging, and rewarding. I can honestly say that I love my job. I never dread going to work in the morning and have multiple moments a week when I think, I can’t believe this is actually my job. I know how lucky I am to feel this way toward my job, especially being so young in the working world, and everyday I am thankful for that.
2. My family
I am obsessed with my family. My parents, brother, and I have always been and always will be extremely close. Our family group chat is always blowing up as we keep each other up to speed on our lives. We congratulate each other’s achievements, laugh at embarrassing moments shared, and relive old memories. I especially cherish the time we all spend together, since it doesn’t occur as often as it used to when we all lived under the same roof. Not only am I blessed with such a close knit, supportive, loving, fun, incredible little Murray clan, I have an amazing extended family: Grandparents, aunts and uncles, and cousins that have given me so much love, support, and guidance throughout my life.
3. My boyfriend
Eric and I started dating during my sophomore year of college and my life has never been the same. It’s been three and a half years and I still get butterflies when he walks toward me on the street and still smile at my phone when I’m texting him. And while my blog is not the place I share the details of my relationship, I will share my gratitude to have someone so loving, smart, supportive, and altogether wonderful as my boyfriend.
4. My friends
I would be nothing without them. My friends are the icing, the glue, and the spice in my life (if that even makes any sense). They bring excitement, inspiration, laughter, support, companionship, and joy. We celebrate life together, spend too much money together, cry together, laugh together, and live together (in the case of my amazing roomie!). My life would be one big pile of blah without my friends.
5. My city
Ever since I was a little girl, I dreamed of living in New York City. Now that I’ve lived here for a year, my starry-eyes are still sparkling. I am in love with this city. There is no place on earth like it. And to wake up every day and think, I can’t believe I actually live here, is such a blessing.
What are five things you’re thankful for right now?
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