Category: Style

Change

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Change. The word that makes some want to crawl under the covers in hiding and others want to jump for joy out of excitement. I think for most people, it’s a combination of these two extremes. Change is scary and even the bravest among us must admit even a small amount of fear that accompanies it. Change brings doubt, uncertainty, and uneasiness: feelings that no human likes to feel. Change is hard work. It takes up very valuable brain space, causes emotional stress, and often requires tedious and physical labor. But change is also thrilling! It brings potential, energy, and excitement into our lives, and is an almost always necessary step in the progression toward goals and success.

Sometimes change is an option and sometimes it’s not. When we are given the option of change, it’s important to not immediately back away out of fear. Instead of thinking about how much time and energy would go into the process of this change, think about what the potential outcomes could be. Instead of thinking about the anxiety and fear you may feel taking on this change, think about the joy and fulfillment it could eventually bring to your life. We shouldn’t accept every option for change that are presented to us, but we should never deny them out of fear or doubt.

I recently went through some pretty major changes in my life. A couple of months ago, I moved into a new apartment in Manhattan and this past week, I started a new job at a fashion, beauty, and lifestyle PR agency in the city. Accepting this job meant leaving the agency I worked at for my first 11 months out of school. It meant leaving a team I loved, work I enjoyed and understood, and a routine I had settled into and was comfortable with. Accepting this job meant the majority of my waking hours were going to completely change. It meant I was going to have to start over in a new office, get to know new coworkers, and learn a brand new way of getting things done. These things scared me (and still do!), but I couldn’t let them weigh heavily on my pros and cons list. The fear of change was not going to let me turn down a job I have dreamed about having for years.

I am still right in the middle of this transformation process and it’s both thrilling and terrifying. But during every “pinch me, I can’t believe I work here!!” moment, I am reminded that I made the right decision and that this change will lead to happiness and success in my life.

Have you experienced any major changes lately? How have you grown from them?

xo,

Tatum

Sumner Neck Wire Collar/Wilkens Double Cuff Bracelet c/o House of Urban/Express Top/Jeans (similar)/Booties (similar)

Photos by: Lauren Listor

Monochromatic

Monochromatic | The PaceIMG_2155IMG_2159IMG_2158Everyone who knows me knows I love dressing in head-to-toe black. But with sunburn still fresh from the sunshine this weekend and Memorial Day just around the corner, it’s time to brighten up my wardrobe (at least some of the time 😉 ). When the heat is on, I like to transform my monochromatic look from all black to all white. There’s just something so fresh and chic about rocking an all-white look that makes me feel feminine and confident. 

I have fallen in love with this white cold shoulder tee from Shein. It’s effortlessly lovely and its flowing design totally helps me beat the heat (catch ya later, sweat stains!). And no summer look would be complete without a great pair of white jeans. You can grab this pair for under $20 at Uniqlo! 

I clearly have the upcoming holiday weekend on my mind 🙂 What are your plans?

xo,

Tatum

White Cold Shoulder Tee c/o Shein / Uniqlo White Skinny Jeans

Current Jewelry Obsession: House of Urban

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There is no denying the power of jewelry. Take an outfit from your closet, made up of that top you’ve worn 70 times and those jeans you bought five seasons ago, add a bangin’ piece of jewelry and the look is instantly transformed. But not just any old necklace or bracelet has the magic to bring an outfit from a 4 to a 10; this transformation requires pieces that are edgy and bold. Dainty and lovely. Unique and eye-catching. Pieces like the ones that make up House of Urban’s amazing collections!

House of Urban jewelry is made in NYC from certified-recycled materials so not only is it completely gorgeous, it’s good for the earth too (win-win!). I dare you to scroll through the online shop and tell me there isn’t at least one piece (or five) that catches your eye 😉 There truly is something for every style, every season, and everyone!

I styled some of my favorite House of Urban pieces into three different looks to showcase how versatile and amazing the pieces are. I added some edge to this Express cut out top with the Sumner Neck Wire Collar and the Wilkens Double Cuff Bracelet, played up the feminine-look of this Express off-the-shoulder top with the Corbett Double Bead Chain Necklace, and brought out the boho vibes of thisH&M Crinkled Off-the-Shoulder Top and H&M Denim Shorts with the Hylan Suede Tie Necklace and Bayard Beaded Bracelet.

What your favorite piece from House of Urban and how would you style it? Screenshot your faves and DM me on Insta to tell me how you would incorporate them into a killer look 🙂

xo,

Tatum

Special thanks to House of Urban for sponsoring this post. 

Sumner Neck Wire Collar/Wilkens Double Cuff Bracelet/Corbett Double Bead Chain Necklace/Hylan Suede Tie Necklace/Bayard Beaded Bracelet c/o House of Urban

Express cut out top /Express Bandeau Off The Shoulder Top/H&M Crinkled Off-the-Shoulder Top/H&M Denim Shorts

Photos by: Lauren Listor

It’s About Time

JORD | The PaceTATUM-12 (1)TATUM-15 (1)TATUM-9TATUM-75TATUM-11TATUM-16 (1)The scent of tulips are drifting through Park Ave, I haven’t worn my parka in weeks (but let’s hope I didn’t just jinx it!), and everyone’s favorite procrastination activity is researching this year’s best rooftop bars and music festivals. That’s right! Spring is officially here, and I could not be happier. It’s the time of year when we are finally reminded what it’s like to spend time with our friends outside of the tiny living rooms and over-crowded bars we’ve been hiding in all winter. When we can finally take our lunch breaks outside, bust out the Ray Bans, and reintroduce our skin to some good-ole’ Vitamin D. But it’s also the time of year when many of us find ourselves standing in front of our closets thinking, Crap…I have no spring clothing to wear. 

If you’re like me and can’t afford to run out and purchase a brand new spring wardrobe, this carefree season just become a little bit stressful. Flowing tops, fun prints, and sundresses are often what we gravitate toward when we head out to do some spring shopping, but focusing on basic accessories and staples, instead of statement pieces, can be a great way to make your money go further.

Basics like my denim jacket and JORD watch add a touch of spring to any outfit. I love how my Frankie 35 Dark Sandalwood & Slate watch from JORD is super light and versatile, which makes it perfect for running around the city after work and on weekends running errands, meeting friends, and enjoying the beautiful weather. The sandalwood is a great contrast to a lighter spring look, but still looks great with darker pieces as the weather and my wardrobe transition into a new season.

If you’re digging this JORD watch just as much as I am, you’re in luck! I’m partnering with JORD to host a giveaway for a $100 e-gift code to JORD’s website. But because everyone likes to be a winner, all entrants will receive a $25 consolation e-gift code at the close of the contest. The contest ends at 11:59 CST on May 14, 2017 and gift codes expire on August 13, 2017.

Enter the giveaway here! Good luck 🙂

xo,

Tatum

Special thanks to JORD for collaborating with me on this post. 

Watches Made From Wood

 Photos by: Lauren Listor

Movin’ On Up

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“Movin’ on up, to the east side.”

Well I did it. I made the move from my neighborhood in Queens to the Upper East Side of Manhattan. If you would have asked me a month ago if I would have thought I would be living in this amazing apartment on the UES, I would have laughed and said, “ugh I wish.” 

The apartment search in Manhattan is one of the weirdest things I have ever done. One weekend, I’m feeling discouraged, disgusted and doubtful that my roommate and I will ever find a place. The next weekend, I’m scrambling for paperwork and checks and applying for the apartment of my New York dreams. And then the weekend after, my parents are making the 7+ hour drive from Pittsburgh to help me move in (literal saints). New York time, ladies and gents. 

Moving has led me to reflect on the past 9 months of living in New York (I can’t believe it’s already been 9 months!!). I’ve seen, experienced, and learned a lot and would like to say I’ve grown, but underneath it all, I’m still the girl with stars in her eyes who will never get over these city lights. Sometimes I think about what 10-year-old Tatum, who had Broadway posters and other NYC mementos all over her room, would think if she met me now, and I’m proud to say, I think she would think I was pretty cool 😉

9 months and one move down with who knows how many to come. Because unlike the certainty of next month’s rent check, my journey in this city is one big exciting unknown. 

xo,

Tatum

Raimana Cowan Open Back Papillon Dress from Nineteenth Amendment

Photos by: Lauren Listor

Confidence

tatum-14tatum-16tatum-12Confident | The Pacetatum-19tatum-13I was recently interviewed to be featured on Nineteenth Amendment‘s blog Nineteenth + Seventh (check out the post here!). One of the questions my friends over at Nineteenth Amendment asked me was to describe my style in one word. This question is a tricky one for anyone to answer because doesn’t our style change by necessity as we move through our weeks? I don’t know about you, but I know I’m not wearing my leggings, Nikes and sports bra from the gym to the office and straight to happy hour.

But then it hit me that describing your style isn’t necessarily about the actual clothes and accessories you wear. It’s about the way you feel in them and the reason you choose to buy them in the first place or take them off the hanger for the day. For some, comfort is key and they could care less about what they look like as long as they are nice and cozy. Others dress to impress and adorn their bodies with pieces that have the sole purpose of turning heads. As I thought about the feeling I hope to create as I get dressed every day, only one word came to mind: confidence.

Whether I’m heading to the gym, to the office, to brunch or out on a Saturday night, my goal is always to feel confident. Confidence pushes me to break that extra sweat during my workout, to stay focused and motivated at work and to be friendly and outgoing in social settings. Confidence leads to courage, persistence and determination.

Your personal style allows you to shape your attitude and we all know that “attitude is everything.” That’s a pretty big responsibility for pieces of fabric, huh?

Now it’s your turn. Describe your style in one word. Comment/DM me on Instagram with your style definition 🙂

xo,

Tatum

Wearing: Chanho Jang Zipper Weave Top from Nineteenth Amendment

Photos by: Lauren Listor

For Better or for Worse

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Living in New York is like being in a crazy, unpredictable, rollercoaster relationship. Sometimes the walk signs line up, your subway arrives right away, you snag a seat and you don’t smell even a whiff of bodily fluid. Other times you trudge through the wind and rain to wait for a delayed subway car, surrounded by what feels like the soaking wet bodies of the entire city’s population and their dripping umbrellas. You never know if your commute to work will be smooth and easy, or if you will leave early to make that 8:30am call and end up twiddling your thumbs for 30 minutes while you car is “delayed because of train traffic ahead.” We could all choose to leave New York and all of its mixed signals and signs for another city that’s more stable, hygienic and financially supportive. But who are we kidding? We aren’t going anywhere. Because we love this city, for better or for worse. 

After suffering through a New York winter, we have finally been given a glimpse of the better times, with little teasers of truly beautiful weather. The parks filled up with people, outdoor tables were scooped up whenever the temperature crossed 50 degrees and parkas were temporarily traded in for light (or even no!) jackets. 

We knew this high wouldn’t last forever (I’m back in my parka as I write this), but we know the good times will be back, and that knowledge is what keeps us around. Predictability and a sense of normalcy are comforting, but they quickly grow old. Surprise, passion and the excitement of an ever-changing environment—that’s what we love about New York. For better and for worse. 

xo,

Tatum

Express lace off-the shoulder top/Uniqlo Jeans

Photos by Kelly West

Valentine’s Day Look

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Love is in the air! I’m typically not the girl to dress in red and pink (head to toe black is my jam), but there’s something about this time of year that makes me want all things girly. When I spotted this H&M dress, I knew it was perfect for V-Day. Feminine, simple, elegant and the color of love, the only thing it’s missing is a box of chocolates and a bottle of wine 😉

But let’s be real. This look would be nothing without these adorable polka-dot tights from Berkshire. How fun are they?! In addition to this outfit, I’ve been wearing these tights non-stop lately. No matter what I pair them with, they make me feel giddy and girly, which is totally my February vibe.

I’m celebrating Valentine’s Day a bit early with a dinner reservation on Saturday at Eric and my favorite restaurant (my mouth is already watering thinking about the cheese plates at this place!). How are you celebrating?

Wishing you all love and happiness during your V-Day festivities!

xoxo (double hugs & kisses for the occasion),

Tatum

H&M dress / Tights c/o Berkshire

Love is love is love.

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I love Valentine’s Day, but I think it gets a lot of undeserved hate. Whether you are single, in a relationship, or somewhere in the middle, Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love. With so much hate and conflict in our world, none of us have any reason to deny a chance to cherish and honor the love that surrounds us.

I’ve been thinking a lot about love and passion lately and how sometimes, it takes something dark to bring these deep and intense emotions to the surface. The events occurring in our country and around the world are revealing the love and passion that lie within so many of our friends, family, and neighbors—both next-door and around the globe.

But in order for this love to truly come to life and grow into something greater than an emotion, we must listen. We have to pay attention to the demonstrations of passion and goodness around us. We must consider what is causing these emotions to be felt and actions to be performed. We need to take off our headphones and listen to the words of protestors telling their stories. We must understand the innate similarities that unite us, while also recognizing the differences that shape our individual experiences.

Love is love is love. Today, tomorrow, on Valentine’s Day, and next week. Listen to the love around you and give it the attention it needs to grow and make a difference.

xo,

Tatum

Tights c/o Berkshire Hosiery/H&M skirt

 

 

Never Settle

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I’m often struck by the difficulty of maintaining a balance between gratitude and determination. When is it appropriate to want and strive for more instead of taking the time to count the blessings we already have? What is the difference between being content and being ambitious? Is it ever ok to settle?

This is something I struggle with a lot. I’m a strong believer that we should all be as in love with our lives as possible. We should be optimistic about what we have and where we’re going and we should push ourselves to achieve more. But this strong work ethic and positivity isn’t always black and white. The jobs that we accept in order to obtain the position we want in life can be brutal and soul crushing. The sleepless nights and tired days we fight through as we work to achieve our dreams are uncomfortable and unhealthy. Where is the balance between enjoying life as it is and pushing ourselves to improve it?

I think the answer lies in the honest questions only we can ask ourselves. But with the hustle and bustle of our every day routines, it’s easy to never actually take the time to assess our lives in such an honest way. Sometimes it takes the courage of someone else to bring us to call our own lives into question. This is my recent experience.

My boyfriend, Eric, has inspired me to ask myself these difficult and honest questions and truly asses my life, goals, and happiness. When Eric applied for the Peace Corps, he knew something in his life needed to change. He knew his work and career wasn’t fulfilling or giving him the opportunity to serve the world the way he wants to. When he was accepted into Peru’s Peace Corps program, he knew the risks he would be taking on in his personal, financial, and professional life in order to make the 27-month commitment, but his desire to make a change in his life was stronger.

The past couple months of digesting and accepting this upcoming change in both of our lives has been a whirlwind, but I’ve learned a lot about settling along the way.

I’ve learned to never settle for the things that we are willing to risk shaking the comfort of consistency for. I’ve learned that when we would rather experience discomfort and fear than continue on our current course, that settling is not the solution.

I’ve learned to be grateful for life’s gifts but to never forget the importance of honest confrontation as this is the only way we will know when a risk is worth taking. It’s the only way we’ll know when we’re ready to go through pain and challenges to make a change. It’s the only way we’ll learn not to settle.

This is what the Sock’M brand is all about. A few excerpts from their  ‘Never Settle’ credo sum it up best…

Even though it might be easier to follow the herd.

Don´t.  There are other paths.

Get up and fight for what you love.

The time has come to cut loose.

Because this way, and this way only, is the path to freedom.

Be honest with yourself. Ask yourself the challenging questions. Never settle.

xo,

Tatum

Roses socks c/o Sock’M/Express Leather Pants