Category: Style

Confidence Boost

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Even the most confident, polished, and put together people in the world have their down moments (I mean, Emma Watson has to have a bad day every once in a while, right?). No matter how hard to we try to stay organized and on top of things and maintain good spirits, we will always be faced with challenges, obstacles, and difficult moments. Maybe you just got back a defeating exam grade. Maybe work has you feeling discouraged and overwhelmed. Or maybe your bedroom is looking extra blah in comparison to the fabulous summer getaways you’re seeing on Instagram. Whatever the cause, we all feel down on ourselves from time to time, which is perfectly natural. However, I refuse to feel down in the dumps for too long, so I like to take matters into my own hands 😉

I asked some of the coolest, smartest, most successful, and confident women I know to share some of their secrets for gaining an instant confidence-boost. Whether you just woke up on the wrong side of the bed or are really facing a trying day, I hope some of these tips with help to brighten your spirits and make you realize how amazing you are! I know I plan to screen shot this post and pull it out whenever I need a boost.

Be sure to check out these gals’ blogs, sites, and Instagrams (links below!). They are all incredible women that I truly admire and think you will too 🙂

 

Whenever I’m having a bad day, I put on heels & lipstick. It doesn’t matter where I’m going because I’m dressing up regardless. I know the natural inclination is to wear something comfortable, throw your hair up in a bun and forget about it, but dressing up instantly boosts my mood (and wearing heels makes me feel fierce as hell).

-Kasia of Ampersand (@ampersand_blog)

When I need a confidence boost, I’ll turn on my headspace app and meditate for ten minutes. Taking time to relax and reflect always boosts my mood!

-Audra of Southern New Yorker (@audrakoch)

For me, confidence comes when I’m feeling happy. A never-fail way to start my day feeling happy is to to make a pot of coffee and blast music while I ready (along with some awful dancing and hairbrush-singing in the mirror – obvi!). Unfortunately, not all days start off that way. So whenever I’m in need of a mid-day confidence boost, I always keep a tube of YSL red lipstick + my favorite sunglasses in my purse. A fierce bold lip is an instant confidence boost for me. It sounds superficial, but it totally works. I swear!

-Katherine of Katherine in Manhattan (@katherineinmanhattan)

When I’m having a hard day, feeling blah or unmotivated, I walk away from my computer, phone or anything I’m working on and take 5 minutes to go over my personal/career goals, breathe, and think about why I’m doing this in the first place. Working in the fashion and media industries are fast-paced and can be stressful, so I have to take time to myself every now and then, and step away from work in order to get back on track and feel refreshed. 

-Audree of Simply Audree Kate (@simplyaudreekate)

Throwing on a black leather jacket and rocking a big hair flip.

-Nichole of Vanilla Extract (@nicholeciotti)

When I need a pick me up, my first stop to feeling fabulous is makeup. I used to work for MAC, so it’s engrained in me that a good mascara and a fun lip can brighten up the most blahhh days. I feel just as confident without a stitch of it on, but when I need to bust out my Sasha Fierce, makeup always seems to motivate me to change out of leggings, dress up & walk tall! I don’t wear makeup to impress anyone…I wear it for ME.

-Liz of Indigo Heights (@indigoheightsblog)

My number one tip for an instant confidence boost is to sweat it out! Working out has always been my go-to way to feel empowered. Exercise releases endorphins, which trigger a positive feeling in your body, boosts your mood, and majorly ups your confidence. Finishing out an extra set of squat jumps or reaching a long term fitness goal is the best way to feel empowered! As a personal trainer, I love seeing my clients show this instant boost of confidence after they finish a challenge. I think exercise is a great way for everyone to get that instant “I can do anything” feeling.

-Samantha of The Fit Brunette (@samanthabowers_)

YOU are the best YOU. There is no one else like you. You are perfect to the core, wonderfully made, and beautiful. If you live every day knowing that, you will walk with your head a little higher.

-Lauren of Laurel Creative (@laurelcreative)

I don’t know about you, but I’m feeling better already. Sometimes the best inspiration is already around you. Special thanks to these amazing women for sharing their wisdom!

Crop Top c/o Closet MotifCloset Motif/Asos Leather Pants/Steve Madden Sneakers
Photos by: Lauren Listor

Summer Lovin’ in Kaer

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Can you believe we are already halfway through summer? I feel like I just installed my AC unit and got my first sunburn! So far, summer has been lovely—Summer Fridays at work, relaxing at Central Park, day trips to the beach, and rooftop BBQs—this girl can’t complain 😉 We may be halfway through July, but summer is far from over, and I’m determined to make the last half of it even better than the first!

My next few weeks of summer hold a lot of exciting plans including a weekend trip to Philly to reunite with my college besties and a visit from my parents (my OG besties!). In between fun-filled weekends and busy work weeks, I anticipate many spontaneous adventures with my fellow NYC partners in crime 😉 The days aren’t this long all year, so it’s important to take advantage of the ample sun light!

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Speaking of sunlight, I feel like this dress is a gift from above; I have majorly fallen in love. This piece by one of my favorite Brooklyn designers, Kaer Brooklyn is unlike any I have ever worn, and I felt like a ballroom dancer twirling around in Union Square Park 🙂 I love dresses that are classy, unique, and comfortable and this one hits all three. If you followed me in September, you know I was obsessed with this bomber jacket by Kaer (still available here on the site!) and I’ve been a huge fan of other Kaer pieces ever since. Head over to the site to shop this dress and other gorgeous pieces.

How are you celebrating the rest of the summer and what are you wearing? Share in the comment section below or DM me on Instagram 🙂

xo,

Tatum

Dress c/o Kaer Brooklyn

Special thanks to Kaer for sponsoring this post. 

 

Summer Fun in NYC (For Under $15!)

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Summer has a way of making everyone more social. All of a sudden, the friends who responded to your texts all winter with a “I think I’m just gonna stay in tonight…” are now hitting you up for happy hour. There’s nothing better than enjoying a glass of rose with your crew after a long day at work, dining al fresco with your S/O on a Friday night, or catching up with an old friends over margaritas and guacamole, but unfortunately, those meals and drinks can start to add up in the dollar department.

This summer, I’ve been trying to find a balance between meals and drinks out and more affordable alternatives that are just as fun. Today, I’m sharing a few of the ways I have been able to get the most out of this season without totally breaking the bank. These activities are based in New York, but for my friends outside of the city, most of these can be transplanted anywhere!

The Rockaways

You don’t have to spend big bucks for a beach giveaway. During the long Fourth of July weekend, my friends and I made a day trip to Rockaway Beach in Queens (highlights from the day in the photos above!). I was dying to get some beach time in during the holiday (and maybe a pina colada or two) and the Rockaways did not disappoint. The Rockaways is reachable by the subway, which means travel cost is as minimal as a metro card swipe. To keep costs as low as possible, bring your own beach snacks and lunch! Or head over to the outdoor food court on 97th street and grab lunch for under $15. I also highly recommend the frozen pina coladas at Connolly’s: Seven dollars of tropical bliss 🙂

P.S. My suit is also under $15 and was perfect for my beach day. Shop it here!

DIY: Dining al fresco

Because there is nothing I love better than eating outdoors in nice weather, Eric and I have been meeting for weekly dinners in the parks throughout the city. After work, we meet at one of our favorite healthy spots (like Sweetgreen or ByChloe), grab salads to go, and head to the closest park for our very own dinner al fresco. We enjoy the beautiful weather, often get to listen to live music, and catch up on our days all for the cost of a Quinoa Taco Salad from ByChloe. Grabbing food to go eliminates the need to tip a server and also keeps you from ordering those extras that you don’t always need (for Eric and I, this means our classic shared plate of calamari and a glass of wine). Taking food to go also allows you to explore different parks and neighborhoods of your city. A win all around!

Take a Walk

This one might sound painfully obvious, but it’s a great alternative to not forget! With so many friends to meet and catch up with, those happy hour drink prices can really start to add up. When a friend asks to meet for drinks, suggest taking a walk instead! Meet in Central Park or by the river and enjoy each other’s company while taking in your city’s most peaceful surroundings. Not only is this a more economical option, but it’s a great healthy activity too. Nothing feels better than getting in some steps and breathing fresh air after a day in the office!

Keep an Eye Out for Free Events!

All cities offer tons of free and open events, you just have to keep your eyes open! I always grab a copy of Time Out New York on my way to the office on Wednesdays, which is a great place to find those free and affordable events going on during the week. There are also fun reoccurring events that happen throughout the season like HudsonRiverFlicks and Summer Stage shows. Incorporating some of these events into your social schedule to balance out the more pricey events will really help your finances in the long run!

As it is for most things in life, it’s all about balance. You don’t need to shell out money every time you want to enjoy yourself in your city. Finding a balance between free and affordable events and the more expensive ones will not only make you feel more responsible and financially savvy today, but it will start good habits that you can continue to practice in the future.

What are your favorite affordable ways to enjoy summertime in your city?

xo,

Tatum

Plunge Neck Cross Back Bikini Set c/o Shein

Gratitude

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We’ve all been there…”My life is hard because X, Y, Z.” “If I only had X like he/she did.” “Why do have to deal with this?!”

Whether these comments are thought internally, uttered to significant others, friends, and roommates, or posted on social media, they’re one in the same: pity parties. I know realistically that we can’t possibly be happy all of the time. There are going to be times when life gets us down, when it hands us things that cause incredible suffering. But these routine pity parties that we throw for ourselves are the issue.  Lately, I have been the hosting way too many Tatum pity parties and a couple of weeks ago, I decided it was time to officially retire the event. 

Because when I think about it, it is downright silly and stupid for me to feel bad for myself. I have an abundance of resources, far more than I need, and so many blessings in every aspect of my life. So now when my inner self starts writing out those pity party invites, I’m stealing the pen and putting that energy toward thinking about all I have to be thankful for, instead of the things I want or worry about.

Today, I’m sharing five things that I am super thankful for at the moment. Next time you start down the path of self-pity, I challenge you to do the same. Just take a moment and list five things you’re thankful for. A change in mentality from yearning to appreciating makes all the difference.

1. My dream job

About a month ago, I started my dream job. It’s crazy and insane and intense, but it’s also fun, exciting, challenging, and rewarding. I can honestly say that I love my job. I never dread going to work in the morning and have multiple moments a week when I think, I can’t believe this is actually my job. I know how lucky I am to feel this way toward my job, especially being so young in the working world, and everyday I am thankful for that. 

2. My family

I am obsessed with my family. My parents, brother, and I have always been and always will be extremely close. Our family group chat is always blowing up as we keep each other up to speed on our lives. We congratulate each other’s achievements, laugh at embarrassing moments shared, and relive old memories. I especially cherish the time we all spend together, since it doesn’t occur as often as it used to when we all lived under the same roof. Not only am I blessed with such a close knit, supportive, loving, fun, incredible little Murray clan, I have an amazing extended family: Grandparents, aunts and uncles, and cousins that have given me so much love, support, and guidance throughout my life.

3. My boyfriend 

Eric and I started dating during my sophomore year of college and my life has never been the same. It’s been three and a half years and I still get butterflies when he walks toward me on the street and still smile at my phone when I’m texting him. And while my blog is not the place I share the details of my relationship, I will share my gratitude to have someone so loving, smart, supportive, and altogether wonderful as my boyfriend.

4. My friends

I would be nothing without them. My friends are the icing, the glue, and the spice in my life (if that even makes any sense). They bring excitement, inspiration, laughter, support, companionship, and joy. We celebrate life together, spend too much money together, cry together, laugh together, and live together (in the case of my amazing roomie!). My life would be one big pile of blah without my friends. 

5. My city

Ever since I was a little girl, I dreamed of living in New York City. Now that I’ve lived here for a year, my starry-eyes are still sparkling. I am in love with this city. There is no place on earth like it. And to wake up every day and think, I can’t believe I actually live here, is such a blessing. 

What are five things you’re thankful for right now?

xo,

Tatum

Express Corset Front Peplum Top/JORD Watch

Photos by: Jay Haute

Change

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Change. The word that makes some want to crawl under the covers in hiding and others want to jump for joy out of excitement. I think for most people, it’s a combination of these two extremes. Change is scary and even the bravest among us must admit even a small amount of fear that accompanies it. Change brings doubt, uncertainty, and uneasiness: feelings that no human likes to feel. Change is hard work. It takes up very valuable brain space, causes emotional stress, and often requires tedious and physical labor. But change is also thrilling! It brings potential, energy, and excitement into our lives, and is an almost always necessary step in the progression toward goals and success.

Sometimes change is an option and sometimes it’s not. When we are given the option of change, it’s important to not immediately back away out of fear. Instead of thinking about how much time and energy would go into the process of this change, think about what the potential outcomes could be. Instead of thinking about the anxiety and fear you may feel taking on this change, think about the joy and fulfillment it could eventually bring to your life. We shouldn’t accept every option for change that are presented to us, but we should never deny them out of fear or doubt.

I recently went through some pretty major changes in my life. A couple of months ago, I moved into a new apartment in Manhattan and this past week, I started a new job at a fashion, beauty, and lifestyle PR agency in the city. Accepting this job meant leaving the agency I worked at for my first 11 months out of school. It meant leaving a team I loved, work I enjoyed and understood, and a routine I had settled into and was comfortable with. Accepting this job meant the majority of my waking hours were going to completely change. It meant I was going to have to start over in a new office, get to know new coworkers, and learn a brand new way of getting things done. These things scared me (and still do!), but I couldn’t let them weigh heavily on my pros and cons list. The fear of change was not going to let me turn down a job I have dreamed about having for years.

I am still right in the middle of this transformation process and it’s both thrilling and terrifying. But during every “pinch me, I can’t believe I work here!!” moment, I am reminded that I made the right decision and that this change will lead to happiness and success in my life.

Have you experienced any major changes lately? How have you grown from them?

xo,

Tatum

Sumner Neck Wire Collar/Wilkens Double Cuff Bracelet c/o House of Urban/Express Top/Jeans (similar)/Booties (similar)

Photos by: Lauren Listor

Monochromatic

Monochromatic | The PaceIMG_2155IMG_2159IMG_2158Everyone who knows me knows I love dressing in head-to-toe black. But with sunburn still fresh from the sunshine this weekend and Memorial Day just around the corner, it’s time to brighten up my wardrobe (at least some of the time 😉 ). When the heat is on, I like to transform my monochromatic look from all black to all white. There’s just something so fresh and chic about rocking an all-white look that makes me feel feminine and confident. 

I have fallen in love with this white cold shoulder tee from Shein. It’s effortlessly lovely and its flowing design totally helps me beat the heat (catch ya later, sweat stains!). And no summer look would be complete without a great pair of white jeans. You can grab this pair for under $20 at Uniqlo! 

I clearly have the upcoming holiday weekend on my mind 🙂 What are your plans?

xo,

Tatum

White Cold Shoulder Tee c/o Shein / Uniqlo White Skinny Jeans

Current Jewelry Obsession: House of Urban

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There is no denying the power of jewelry. Take an outfit from your closet, made up of that top you’ve worn 70 times and those jeans you bought five seasons ago, add a bangin’ piece of jewelry and the look is instantly transformed. But not just any old necklace or bracelet has the magic to bring an outfit from a 4 to a 10; this transformation requires pieces that are edgy and bold. Dainty and lovely. Unique and eye-catching. Pieces like the ones that make up House of Urban’s amazing collections!

House of Urban jewelry is made in NYC from certified-recycled materials so not only is it completely gorgeous, it’s good for the earth too (win-win!). I dare you to scroll through the online shop and tell me there isn’t at least one piece (or five) that catches your eye 😉 There truly is something for every style, every season, and everyone!

I styled some of my favorite House of Urban pieces into three different looks to showcase how versatile and amazing the pieces are. I added some edge to this Express cut out top with the Sumner Neck Wire Collar and the Wilkens Double Cuff Bracelet, played up the feminine-look of this Express off-the-shoulder top with the Corbett Double Bead Chain Necklace, and brought out the boho vibes of thisH&M Crinkled Off-the-Shoulder Top and H&M Denim Shorts with the Hylan Suede Tie Necklace and Bayard Beaded Bracelet.

What your favorite piece from House of Urban and how would you style it? Screenshot your faves and DM me on Insta to tell me how you would incorporate them into a killer look 🙂

xo,

Tatum

Special thanks to House of Urban for sponsoring this post. 

Sumner Neck Wire Collar/Wilkens Double Cuff Bracelet/Corbett Double Bead Chain Necklace/Hylan Suede Tie Necklace/Bayard Beaded Bracelet c/o House of Urban

Express cut out top /Express Bandeau Off The Shoulder Top/H&M Crinkled Off-the-Shoulder Top/H&M Denim Shorts

Photos by: Lauren Listor

It’s About Time

JORD | The PaceTATUM-12 (1)TATUM-15 (1)TATUM-9TATUM-75TATUM-11TATUM-16 (1)The scent of tulips are drifting through Park Ave, I haven’t worn my parka in weeks (but let’s hope I didn’t just jinx it!), and everyone’s favorite procrastination activity is researching this year’s best rooftop bars and music festivals. That’s right! Spring is officially here, and I could not be happier. It’s the time of year when we are finally reminded what it’s like to spend time with our friends outside of the tiny living rooms and over-crowded bars we’ve been hiding in all winter. When we can finally take our lunch breaks outside, bust out the Ray Bans, and reintroduce our skin to some good-ole’ Vitamin D. But it’s also the time of year when many of us find ourselves standing in front of our closets thinking, Crap…I have no spring clothing to wear. 

If you’re like me and can’t afford to run out and purchase a brand new spring wardrobe, this carefree season just become a little bit stressful. Flowing tops, fun prints, and sundresses are often what we gravitate toward when we head out to do some spring shopping, but focusing on basic accessories and staples, instead of statement pieces, can be a great way to make your money go further.

Basics like my denim jacket and JORD watch add a touch of spring to any outfit. I love how my Frankie 35 Dark Sandalwood & Slate watch from JORD is super light and versatile, which makes it perfect for running around the city after work and on weekends running errands, meeting friends, and enjoying the beautiful weather. The sandalwood is a great contrast to a lighter spring look, but still looks great with darker pieces as the weather and my wardrobe transition into a new season.

If you’re digging this JORD watch just as much as I am, you’re in luck! I’m partnering with JORD to host a giveaway for a $100 e-gift code to JORD’s website. But because everyone likes to be a winner, all entrants will receive a $25 consolation e-gift code at the close of the contest. The contest ends at 11:59 CST on May 14, 2017 and gift codes expire on August 13, 2017.

Enter the giveaway here! Good luck 🙂

xo,

Tatum

Special thanks to JORD for collaborating with me on this post. 

Watches Made From Wood

 Photos by: Lauren Listor

Movin’ On Up

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“Movin’ on up, to the east side.”

Well I did it. I made the move from my neighborhood in Queens to the Upper East Side of Manhattan. If you would have asked me a month ago if I would have thought I would be living in this amazing apartment on the UES, I would have laughed and said, “ugh I wish.” 

The apartment search in Manhattan is one of the weirdest things I have ever done. One weekend, I’m feeling discouraged, disgusted and doubtful that my roommate and I will ever find a place. The next weekend, I’m scrambling for paperwork and checks and applying for the apartment of my New York dreams. And then the weekend after, my parents are making the 7+ hour drive from Pittsburgh to help me move in (literal saints). New York time, ladies and gents. 

Moving has led me to reflect on the past 9 months of living in New York (I can’t believe it’s already been 9 months!!). I’ve seen, experienced, and learned a lot and would like to say I’ve grown, but underneath it all, I’m still the girl with stars in her eyes who will never get over these city lights. Sometimes I think about what 10-year-old Tatum, who had Broadway posters and other NYC mementos all over her room, would think if she met me now, and I’m proud to say, I think she would think I was pretty cool 😉

9 months and one move down with who knows how many to come. Because unlike the certainty of next month’s rent check, my journey in this city is one big exciting unknown. 

xo,

Tatum

Raimana Cowan Open Back Papillon Dress from Nineteenth Amendment

Photos by: Lauren Listor

Confidence

tatum-14tatum-16tatum-12Confident | The Pacetatum-19tatum-13I was recently interviewed to be featured on Nineteenth Amendment‘s blog Nineteenth + Seventh (check out the post here!). One of the questions my friends over at Nineteenth Amendment asked me was to describe my style in one word. This question is a tricky one for anyone to answer because doesn’t our style change by necessity as we move through our weeks? I don’t know about you, but I know I’m not wearing my leggings, Nikes and sports bra from the gym to the office and straight to happy hour.

But then it hit me that describing your style isn’t necessarily about the actual clothes and accessories you wear. It’s about the way you feel in them and the reason you choose to buy them in the first place or take them off the hanger for the day. For some, comfort is key and they could care less about what they look like as long as they are nice and cozy. Others dress to impress and adorn their bodies with pieces that have the sole purpose of turning heads. As I thought about the feeling I hope to create as I get dressed every day, only one word came to mind: confidence.

Whether I’m heading to the gym, to the office, to brunch or out on a Saturday night, my goal is always to feel confident. Confidence pushes me to break that extra sweat during my workout, to stay focused and motivated at work and to be friendly and outgoing in social settings. Confidence leads to courage, persistence and determination.

Your personal style allows you to shape your attitude and we all know that “attitude is everything.” That’s a pretty big responsibility for pieces of fabric, huh?

Now it’s your turn. Describe your style in one word. Comment/DM me on Instagram with your style definition 🙂

xo,

Tatum

Wearing: Chanho Jang Zipper Weave Top from Nineteenth Amendment

Photos by: Lauren Listor