Confidence Boost

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Even the most confident, polished, and put together people in the world have their down moments (I mean, Emma Watson has to have a bad day every once in a while, right?). No matter how hard to we try to stay organized and on top of things and maintain good spirits, we will always be faced with challenges, obstacles, and difficult moments. Maybe you just got back a defeating exam grade. Maybe work has you feeling discouraged and overwhelmed. Or maybe your bedroom is looking extra blah in comparison to the fabulous summer getaways you’re seeing on Instagram. Whatever the cause, we all feel down on ourselves from time to time, which is perfectly natural. However, I refuse to feel down in the dumps for too long, so I like to take matters into my own hands 😉

I asked some of the coolest, smartest, most successful, and confident women I know to share some of their secrets for gaining an instant confidence-boost. Whether you just woke up on the wrong side of the bed or are really facing a trying day, I hope some of these tips with help to brighten your spirits and make you realize how amazing you are! I know I plan to screen shot this post and pull it out whenever I need a boost.

Be sure to check out these gals’ blogs, sites, and Instagrams (links below!). They are all incredible women that I truly admire and think you will too 🙂

 

Whenever I’m having a bad day, I put on heels & lipstick. It doesn’t matter where I’m going because I’m dressing up regardless. I know the natural inclination is to wear something comfortable, throw your hair up in a bun and forget about it, but dressing up instantly boosts my mood (and wearing heels makes me feel fierce as hell).

-Kasia of Ampersand (@ampersand_blog)

When I need a confidence boost, I’ll turn on my headspace app and meditate for ten minutes. Taking time to relax and reflect always boosts my mood!

-Audra of Southern New Yorker (@audrakoch)

For me, confidence comes when I’m feeling happy. A never-fail way to start my day feeling happy is to to make a pot of coffee and blast music while I ready (along with some awful dancing and hairbrush-singing in the mirror – obvi!). Unfortunately, not all days start off that way. So whenever I’m in need of a mid-day confidence boost, I always keep a tube of YSL red lipstick + my favorite sunglasses in my purse. A fierce bold lip is an instant confidence boost for me. It sounds superficial, but it totally works. I swear!

-Katherine of Katherine in Manhattan (@katherineinmanhattan)

When I’m having a hard day, feeling blah or unmotivated, I walk away from my computer, phone or anything I’m working on and take 5 minutes to go over my personal/career goals, breathe, and think about why I’m doing this in the first place. Working in the fashion and media industries are fast-paced and can be stressful, so I have to take time to myself every now and then, and step away from work in order to get back on track and feel refreshed. 

-Audree of Simply Audree Kate (@simplyaudreekate)

Throwing on a black leather jacket and rocking a big hair flip.

-Nichole of Vanilla Extract (@nicholeciotti)

When I need a pick me up, my first stop to feeling fabulous is makeup. I used to work for MAC, so it’s engrained in me that a good mascara and a fun lip can brighten up the most blahhh days. I feel just as confident without a stitch of it on, but when I need to bust out my Sasha Fierce, makeup always seems to motivate me to change out of leggings, dress up & walk tall! I don’t wear makeup to impress anyone…I wear it for ME.

-Liz of Indigo Heights (@indigoheightsblog)

My number one tip for an instant confidence boost is to sweat it out! Working out has always been my go-to way to feel empowered. Exercise releases endorphins, which trigger a positive feeling in your body, boosts your mood, and majorly ups your confidence. Finishing out an extra set of squat jumps or reaching a long term fitness goal is the best way to feel empowered! As a personal trainer, I love seeing my clients show this instant boost of confidence after they finish a challenge. I think exercise is a great way for everyone to get that instant “I can do anything” feeling.

-Samantha of The Fit Brunette (@samanthabowers_)

YOU are the best YOU. There is no one else like you. You are perfect to the core, wonderfully made, and beautiful. If you live every day knowing that, you will walk with your head a little higher.

-Lauren of Laurel Creative (@laurelcreative)

I don’t know about you, but I’m feeling better already. Sometimes the best inspiration is already around you. Special thanks to these amazing women for sharing their wisdom!

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Photos by: Lauren Listor

Healthy Vegan Taco Salad

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I know I’m not the only one who finds Sundays to be a bit rough. Whether we’re sad our fun weekend is coming to an end, nervous about the work week ahead, or a little bit of both, Sunday evenings can be quite a let down after the high of the two previous days.

In order to keep some of those “Sunday Scaries” at bay, I try to fill my Sunday evenings with positive and productive things that will improve my week. A big part of this is meal prep. I have been a big fan of meal prep for a while as a great way to save money and eat healthy throughout the week. Lately, I’ve been experimenting with new recipes (see some of my favorites here), but this week, I decided to try a creation of my own and it turned out so well, I decided to share it! This salad is easy and cheap to prepare, vegetable and protein packed, and super flavorful. I’ve been enjoying it every day this week for lunch, and I’m still not sick of it!

I am a pescetarian (aka a vegetarian that eats fish), but I cook a lot of vegan meals, like this one. If you’re a carnivore, feel free to substitute the vegan beef-less ‘ground beef’ for a lean meat like chicken or turkey.  As I mentioned above, this recipe is great for meal prep, but you can also make a big batch for your family and friends to enjoy for a meal, or make a smaller batch for one or two. Oh, and feel free to add chips to complete the taco salad feel 😉

Healthy Vegan Taco Salad

If you give this recipe a try, be sure to let me know your thoughts! Leave a comment below or message me on Instagram! 🙂

xo,

Tatum

Lower Body Workout

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I think we can all agree that there is nothing like the feeling after a great workout. We feel strong, accomplished, fierce (and probably very sweaty!). But we all know the struggles of finding the motivation and energy to get to the gym, and then when we arrive there is always the struggle of what do I do? This is something I get a lot of questions about from people who want to expand their gym routine from the bordeom of the treadmill.

No matter what your preferred method is to break a sweat, I always advise my friends to incorporate some type of strength training into their routines. I talked about the benefits of strength training in this post and shared an upper body workout. Today, I’m sharing a lower body workout that can be modified for any fitness level. It combines strength training with pilates and cardio moves that will leave your muscles screaming and sore the next day. Lace up your sneaks, pop in your headphones, pull this baby up on your phone, and hit the gym. You can do it!

Lower Body Workout

ADVANCED: 55-60 minute workout-Starting with Set 1, do 20 reps of each move, 16 reps of each move, and 8 reps of each move. Do the same for Set 2, 3, and 4. Finish with pilates burnout.

INTERMEDIATE: 30-40 minute workout-Starting with Set 1, do 8 reps of each move. Go through each set twice. Finish with pilates burnout.

BEGINNER: 20-30 minute workout-Do 8 reps of each move. Finish with pilates burnout.

[Pattern of set: 1. Strength training 2. Cardio move 3. Pilates move 4. Strength training]

SET 1:

Deadlifts

Squat jumps

Rear leg lifts (On hands and knees, do # of reps for both sides) 

Side lunges

SET 2:

Kettle bell swings

Burpees

Fire hydrant leg lifts (Do # of reps for both sides)

Hip Thrusts (Back on bench, hold weight on hips and thrust hips up)

SET 3:

Ski/Narrow Squats

Jumping Lunges

Hamstring Leg Curls (Do # of reps for both sides)

Curtsy Lunge (Lunge back into curtsy position)

SET 4:

Wide stance deadlifts

Pop squats (Squat down and tap ground, jump up and bring legs together)

Elbow tap lifts (On hands and knees, pull in knee to elbow and extend leg back out)

Squat steps (In squat position, step out to wide squat position and back in to narrow squat position)

PILATES BURNOUT: 45 seconds on, followed by 15 second pulses

Inside leg lift (Lie on right side, cross left leg over right and lift right leg up and down. Repeat on left side)

Side leg lift (Lie on right side, raise left leg up and down. Repeat on left side)

Rear leg lift (On hands and knees, raise straight leg up and down. Repeat with other leg.)

 

And don’t forget…no trip to the gym is complete without fierce and comfortable fitness attire. I talked about my obsession with Fierce and Regal in this post and still can’t get over how incredible the line is. Be sure to check out Fierce + Regal online and on Instagram for the amazing pieces I’m wearing in this post and more!

Happy sweating!

xo,

Tatum

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Photos by: Lauren Listor

Special thanks for Fierce + Regal for working with me on this post.

 

Summer Lovin’ in Kaer

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Can you believe we are already halfway through summer? I feel like I just installed my AC unit and got my first sunburn! So far, summer has been lovely—Summer Fridays at work, relaxing at Central Park, day trips to the beach, and rooftop BBQs—this girl can’t complain 😉 We may be halfway through July, but summer is far from over, and I’m determined to make the last half of it even better than the first!

My next few weeks of summer hold a lot of exciting plans including a weekend trip to Philly to reunite with my college besties and a visit from my parents (my OG besties!). In between fun-filled weekends and busy work weeks, I anticipate many spontaneous adventures with my fellow NYC partners in crime 😉 The days aren’t this long all year, so it’s important to take advantage of the ample sun light!

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Speaking of sunlight, I feel like this dress is a gift from above; I have majorly fallen in love. This piece by one of my favorite Brooklyn designers, Kaer Brooklyn is unlike any I have ever worn, and I felt like a ballroom dancer twirling around in Union Square Park 🙂 I love dresses that are classy, unique, and comfortable and this one hits all three. If you followed me in September, you know I was obsessed with this bomber jacket by Kaer (still available here on the site!) and I’ve been a huge fan of other Kaer pieces ever since. Head over to the site to shop this dress and other gorgeous pieces.

How are you celebrating the rest of the summer and what are you wearing? Share in the comment section below or DM me on Instagram 🙂

xo,

Tatum

Dress c/o Kaer Brooklyn

Special thanks to Kaer for sponsoring this post. 

 

A New Mentality on Student Debt

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It is no secret that student debt in the United States is a major problem. According to this Forbes article, there are 44.2 million U.S. borrowers with a total of $1.31 trillion in student debt, and the average student in the Class of 2016 has $37,172 in student loan debt. When I was still in school, these massive numbers were hard to wrap my head around. I have had a job since I was 16, but working part-time jobs with paychecks that went partly to my college fund and partly to fueling my trips to the mall did not give me a real understanding of how income, bills, debt, and personal finance in general operate. Having been in the working world for over a year, I now have a better understanding of how impactful my debt is and how big of an effect it has on my life.

If you’re like me and are one of the more than 44 million borrowers contributing to our country’s student debt, you know how overwhelming and terrible those monthly loan payments are. Partnered with rent, utilities bills, gym membership fees, groceries, and other necessities, it’s enough to bring a twenty-something to tears (and trust me, it has multiple times).

I personally am taking on an enormous amount of student debt and my monthly payments eat up a large majority of my paycheck. I would be lying if I said I didn’t look at my coworkers, peers, and friends that have less (or no) student debt than I do and feel bad for myself. But my debt is going to be a part of my life for quite some time, whether I like it or not. I refuse to throw a 15-year-long pity party for myself and harness unnecessary feelings of negativity and ungratefulness, so lately I have been trying to take on a new mindset regarding my debt.

Instead of thinking of my monthly payments as another bill, I am viewing these payments as a positive step forward. For four years, I dug myself into a monstrous hole of debt, and while I will never look at my four years at Villanova with anything but joy and gratitude, I can recognize now that those amazing years also included the act of painting a picture of very red dollar signs.  But now, I am climbing out of that hole. With every payment, I am getting closer to being debt-free.

I obviously believe education in our country is extremely overpriced and that student debt is an issue that needs to be addressed, but if you are one of the 44.2 million borrowers with debt, we can never let the annoyance and difficulty of our debt allow us to forget what a privilege receiving an education is. In the midst of those painful monthly payments, it is important to recognize our blessings and fortune and take on a more positive mindset.

What are your tips for managing your student debt? Please share in the comment section below!

xo,

Tatum

Fierce + Regal

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I recently discovered the new elevated athletic performance wear brand, Fierce + Regal, and fell in love right away. Not only are the pieces lovely, but they feel amazing! I could tell the second I stepped into a pair of the Capri Leggings and Sports Bra that the fabric was of the highest quality: extremely comfortable and super easy to move in. The material provides so much support, automatically boosting my confidence and giving me tons of extra fitspo to break a sweat 😉

But Fierce + Regal is more than beautiful, high quality activewear pieces: it’s a mantra in and of itself. Fierce + Regal is all about female empowerment. Women should feel fierce, unstoppable, and confident on the inside, and still be able to look regal, put together, and sophisticated on the outside. To me, being fierce means being tenacious. It means waking up every day and attacking a killer workout at the gym, heading into the office determined to work hard and be successful, and always approaching every situation with a confident, can-do attitude. The word regal means class, sophistication, intelligence, beauty, and poise.

Many may find these characteristics to be opposites and might think that a woman needs to choose one or the other. But Fierce + Regal (and I!) do not agree. A woman can rock both of these qualities and should never have to sacrifice tenacity for poise or vice versa. I love that the Fierce + Regal line encourages this powerful combination of traits and that the pieces allow females to bring these characteristics to the surface.

We are all given different personalities, different strengths and weaknesses, and different character traits. But I believe that in every woman there is at least a little bit of fierceness and regality just waiting to come out. Let Fierce + Regal inspire and empower you to show the world what you’re made of.

Be sure to check out Fierce + Regal online and on Instagram 🙂

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Photos by: Lauren Listor

Special thanks for Fierce + Regal for working with me on this post.

 

Summer Fun in NYC (For Under $15!)

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Summer has a way of making everyone more social. All of a sudden, the friends who responded to your texts all winter with a “I think I’m just gonna stay in tonight…” are now hitting you up for happy hour. There’s nothing better than enjoying a glass of rose with your crew after a long day at work, dining al fresco with your S/O on a Friday night, or catching up with an old friends over margaritas and guacamole, but unfortunately, those meals and drinks can start to add up in the dollar department.

This summer, I’ve been trying to find a balance between meals and drinks out and more affordable alternatives that are just as fun. Today, I’m sharing a few of the ways I have been able to get the most out of this season without totally breaking the bank. These activities are based in New York, but for my friends outside of the city, most of these can be transplanted anywhere!

The Rockaways

You don’t have to spend big bucks for a beach giveaway. During the long Fourth of July weekend, my friends and I made a day trip to Rockaway Beach in Queens (highlights from the day in the photos above!). I was dying to get some beach time in during the holiday (and maybe a pina colada or two) and the Rockaways did not disappoint. The Rockaways is reachable by the subway, which means travel cost is as minimal as a metro card swipe. To keep costs as low as possible, bring your own beach snacks and lunch! Or head over to the outdoor food court on 97th street and grab lunch for under $15. I also highly recommend the frozen pina coladas at Connolly’s: Seven dollars of tropical bliss 🙂

P.S. My suit is also under $15 and was perfect for my beach day. Shop it here!

DIY: Dining al fresco

Because there is nothing I love better than eating outdoors in nice weather, Eric and I have been meeting for weekly dinners in the parks throughout the city. After work, we meet at one of our favorite healthy spots (like Sweetgreen or ByChloe), grab salads to go, and head to the closest park for our very own dinner al fresco. We enjoy the beautiful weather, often get to listen to live music, and catch up on our days all for the cost of a Quinoa Taco Salad from ByChloe. Grabbing food to go eliminates the need to tip a server and also keeps you from ordering those extras that you don’t always need (for Eric and I, this means our classic shared plate of calamari and a glass of wine). Taking food to go also allows you to explore different parks and neighborhoods of your city. A win all around!

Take a Walk

This one might sound painfully obvious, but it’s a great alternative to not forget! With so many friends to meet and catch up with, those happy hour drink prices can really start to add up. When a friend asks to meet for drinks, suggest taking a walk instead! Meet in Central Park or by the river and enjoy each other’s company while taking in your city’s most peaceful surroundings. Not only is this a more economical option, but it’s a great healthy activity too. Nothing feels better than getting in some steps and breathing fresh air after a day in the office!

Keep an Eye Out for Free Events!

All cities offer tons of free and open events, you just have to keep your eyes open! I always grab a copy of Time Out New York on my way to the office on Wednesdays, which is a great place to find those free and affordable events going on during the week. There are also fun reoccurring events that happen throughout the season like HudsonRiverFlicks and Summer Stage shows. Incorporating some of these events into your social schedule to balance out the more pricey events will really help your finances in the long run!

As it is for most things in life, it’s all about balance. You don’t need to shell out money every time you want to enjoy yourself in your city. Finding a balance between free and affordable events and the more expensive ones will not only make you feel more responsible and financially savvy today, but it will start good habits that you can continue to practice in the future.

What are your favorite affordable ways to enjoy summertime in your city?

xo,

Tatum

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Gratitude

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We’ve all been there…”My life is hard because X, Y, Z.” “If I only had X like he/she did.” “Why do have to deal with this?!”

Whether these comments are thought internally, uttered to significant others, friends, and roommates, or posted on social media, they’re one in the same: pity parties. I know realistically that we can’t possibly be happy all of the time. There are going to be times when life gets us down, when it hands us things that cause incredible suffering. But these routine pity parties that we throw for ourselves are the issue.  Lately, I have been the hosting way too many Tatum pity parties and a couple of weeks ago, I decided it was time to officially retire the event. 

Because when I think about it, it is downright silly and stupid for me to feel bad for myself. I have an abundance of resources, far more than I need, and so many blessings in every aspect of my life. So now when my inner self starts writing out those pity party invites, I’m stealing the pen and putting that energy toward thinking about all I have to be thankful for, instead of the things I want or worry about.

Today, I’m sharing five things that I am super thankful for at the moment. Next time you start down the path of self-pity, I challenge you to do the same. Just take a moment and list five things you’re thankful for. A change in mentality from yearning to appreciating makes all the difference.

1. My dream job

About a month ago, I started my dream job. It’s crazy and insane and intense, but it’s also fun, exciting, challenging, and rewarding. I can honestly say that I love my job. I never dread going to work in the morning and have multiple moments a week when I think, I can’t believe this is actually my job. I know how lucky I am to feel this way toward my job, especially being so young in the working world, and everyday I am thankful for that. 

2. My family

I am obsessed with my family. My parents, brother, and I have always been and always will be extremely close. Our family group chat is always blowing up as we keep each other up to speed on our lives. We congratulate each other’s achievements, laugh at embarrassing moments shared, and relive old memories. I especially cherish the time we all spend together, since it doesn’t occur as often as it used to when we all lived under the same roof. Not only am I blessed with such a close knit, supportive, loving, fun, incredible little Murray clan, I have an amazing extended family: Grandparents, aunts and uncles, and cousins that have given me so much love, support, and guidance throughout my life.

3. My boyfriend 

Eric and I started dating during my sophomore year of college and my life has never been the same. It’s been three and a half years and I still get butterflies when he walks toward me on the street and still smile at my phone when I’m texting him. And while my blog is not the place I share the details of my relationship, I will share my gratitude to have someone so loving, smart, supportive, and altogether wonderful as my boyfriend.

4. My friends

I would be nothing without them. My friends are the icing, the glue, and the spice in my life (if that even makes any sense). They bring excitement, inspiration, laughter, support, companionship, and joy. We celebrate life together, spend too much money together, cry together, laugh together, and live together (in the case of my amazing roomie!). My life would be one big pile of blah without my friends. 

5. My city

Ever since I was a little girl, I dreamed of living in New York City. Now that I’ve lived here for a year, my starry-eyes are still sparkling. I am in love with this city. There is no place on earth like it. And to wake up every day and think, I can’t believe I actually live here, is such a blessing. 

What are five things you’re thankful for right now?

xo,

Tatum

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Photos by: Jay Haute

Provenance Meals Review

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Last week, I had the privilege of testing out an organic meal delivery service in the New York area called Provenance Meals. Provenance is an organic meal delivery service for busy New Yorkers with 100% gluten-free and dairy-free meals made from scratch with sustainable and organic local ingredients. Provenance offers prepared breakfast, lunch, and dinner options for every diet from vegan to paleo. Take a look at this week’s menu to get an idea of the incredible meals Provenance offers (WARNING: Mouth-watering may occur).

I enjoyed two days of breakfast, lunch, and dinner of some of the most incredible and creative meals I have ever had including Pear Matcha Paleo Muffins, Sweet Potato Toast with Black Bean Mash, Chargrilled Butternut Squash with Chive Sunflower Pesto, and Creamy Lemon Celeriac Pasta with Asparagus & Peas. Every meal was absolutely AMAZING—filling, fresh, healthy, and so tasty. I also loved how diverse my meals were, some including ingredients I have never tried or have heard of before!

My experience trying out Provenance Meals was wonderful, and I’m already sad that I won’t be having another bowl of Coconut Quinoa and Lentil Curry this week. If you live in the city or nearby, check out the website to see if Provenance is a service that could work for you!

Special thanks to Provenance Meals for collaborating with me on this post.

5 Lunches You Need to Meal Prep Today

If you follow me on Instagram and watch any of my stories, you know that I am a major fan of meal prep. Living in New York is expensive and I can’t afford to buy lunch every day, so it’s super important for me to prepare healthy lunches to fuel me through the week. I know “meal prep” can sound daunting, exhausting, and intimidating…What will I make? What groceries do I buy? Am I going to get bored of eating the same thing??! All of these questions are totally legitimate and can deter many people from joining the Sunday Meal Prep club. But don’t fear; I’ve got you 🙂

I’ve rounded up some amazing, healthy dishes for you to try this week, next week, and next month. Remember that a key of keeping meal prep exciting is always trying something new, so give one or two of these a try and let me know what you think! Happy prepping!

Garlic Tofu Salad with Lime Dressing by Healthier Steps

I made this a couple of weeks ago and it was amazing!

Rainbow Power Salad with Roasted Chickpeas by Pinch of Yum

Eggplant, Caramelized Onion and Tomato Pasta by Well Vegan

Made this last week for Eric and I with Trader Joe’s red lentil pasta and it was incredible!

Southwestern Chopped Salad with Cilantro Dressing by The Garden Grazer

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Our Family’s Favorite Salad by Gimme Some Oven

This dressing is my new fave!

What are your favorite meal prep recipes? I’m always looking for something new to try!

xo,

Tatum